You Brush Your Teeth, Ch Ch Ch Ch…

Two years ago, we had the unfortunate experience of having to watch both of our daughters be wheeled into a hospital operating room to be put under general anesthesia for dental surgery. We thought we had been taking proper care of our children’s teeth, but we learned in the spring of 2013, we had been highly misinformed. Since February is National Children’s Dental Health Month, I thought it was an appropriate time to share with you our tumultuous story and what we’ve learned along the way. My hope is that you can learn from our mistakes and spare yourself the hardship and cost of experiencing this with your own children. It is not a story I have told many people, because, as you can imagine, it is a little embarrassing to admit your shortfalls.

First VisitThe girls had their first visit to the dentist sometime around the age of two. When we asked at what age they should have their first exam, our dentist (not a pediatric dentist) instructed us to bring them along to one of our own dental cleanings at about that age. It would help them become acclimated to the dentist office. They could watch mom and dad and see that it’s not scary, sit in the dental chair and go for a ride, put on a hygienist mask, look at the tools… sort of for fun. During this time, the dentist took a quick peek in their mouths, but no cleaning was done. We were told not to use toothpaste with fluoride yet due to the risk of them swallowing it, which was a relief because the only toothpaste our kids would even let us come near them with was the “Thomas the Train” training toothpaste. Our dentist told us they should come in for their official first exam and cleaning when they turned three. So we did and this seemed to reveal nothing alarming. No x-rays were done.

Back then, the process of brushing their teeth at home was a battle each and every time. We got it done, but I dreaded it. We must have come up with every creative idea possible to coerce our children to open their mouths to brush. We’d sing songs, we ‘d brush our teeth at the same time, we’d offer rewards, we bought toothbrushes that lit up and practically put on a show for them. We even tried scare tactics like showing them photos of children with rotten teeth. Awful, I know. Some nights, we did better than others. I recall hearing that we should brush for two minutes and I remember thinking, “We are lucky if we get a toothbrush in there for thirty seconds!” With my husband gone in the mornings six days a week and a newborn baby in tow, I have to admit there were certainly days that I lost the battle and they would go without brushing their teeth until bedtime. I can say with certainty that we never flossed or used mouth rinse at this stage. It was a success to just get in and brush a bit.

They ate a healthy, well balanced diet containing LOTS of fruit and vegetables, so I figured that was in our favor. The girls did drink quite a bit of apple juice when they were younger though. I remember Elizabeth in particular drinking a lot of it out a sippy cup. I figured it wasn’t a good habit, but you get stuck in your bad routines and you pick your battles. I’m sure they also had a little candy now and then, but not any more than the average kid. I did use Dum Dums during potty training and they loved “gummy” fruit snacks.

The next spring when we went back for their regular cleanings, we were told Elizabeth’s teeth looked fine. No cavities! Caroline wasn’t as lucky. She had a cavity. I remember sitting there thinking how awful it was going to be to try to get her to sit still to get it filled considering how challenging it was to get her to cooperate just for the cleaning. While our dentist was the nicest, sweetest man, Caroline just wouldn’t warm up to him. Miss Caroline is the second most bullheaded person I know (after myself) and when she doesn’t want to do something, she will NOT do it. This is the point in time when I decided it might be time to find a pediatric dentist who specializes in meeting the needs of children. I figured a fresh start where she would have no negative associations might work in our favor. That’s when we met Dr. Rebecca L. Robbins, DDS who helped us turn everything around.

We first arrived to find a waiting room full of toys and a Disney movie playing on a big screen as well as in the exam rooms. While Caroline was still a little shy, I recall her being pretty cooperative for her first exam. The hygienist was heaven sent. They did X-rays which revealed the cavity and some other trouble spots. After a lot of discussion we decided to try fixing the tooth in the office with the use of “laughing gas”. Despite all the wonderful work by the dentist and her team, to put it nicely, Caroline did NOT comply. I won’t rehash the whole debacle, but picture a lot of crying, kicking, and screaming and very little mouth opening to fix the problems. The only option left was to take her into the hospital to have the cavities fixed while she was put under.

Before Caroline's SurgeryShe was all smiles when we took her in, but that’s before she refused to put on the hospital gown. I went into the OR with her and when it was time for her to be put under she laid in my lap in attempt to calm her down, but mostly so that I could hold her down. The next moments were some of the most difficult in my experience as a parent. I don’t remember every detail now, but what I do remember very clearly is her jerking and flailing in my arms as I tried with all my might to hold her straight so she could breathe in the anesthesia. She was fighting it and screaming as I tried to comfort her by singing “You are my sunshine…” while I broke down into tears. Then within seconds, her body went limp and she was completely still and quiet. The nurses moved her to the operating table and I watched my baby girl lying there with tubes attached to her and her eyes and face puffy from the drugs. I left the room bawling. When she awoke from the anesthesia she was agitated and inconsolable. She lay confused, moaning and groaning, crying, and writhing. Despite the fact that Dr. Robbins and her team were wonderful, I was relieved it was over and I told myself we would start fresh and we would never go through this again.

Before Elizabeth's SurgeryUnfortunately the next fall we were back with Elizabeth after her next exam revealed FIVE cavities. I was confused about how so many problems could have arisen in just six months. It became evident that the problems had been there six months ago but were not revealed because no X-rays were done at the other office. I was embarrassed and felt like I had let her down. We had to go back to the hospital to experience the same horrible process. The situation was so bad that they had to pull one tooth, put a silver crown on one and fill three others. When poor Elizabeth emerged and I saw the silver crown when she smiled, I felt terribly guilty. At the time, the poor performance of the existing white crowns for children made them an unreliable option. Dr. Rebecca Robbins is so amazing that when she found a white crown that could work for Elizabeth she later replaced the silver one with the white crown for us. I can’t thank her enough. Elizabeth was embarrassed by the silver crown and I missed her bright beautiful smile.

Elizabeth with Silver CrownAfter all of this, I’ve tried to look at the positives. First off, we all are lucky enough to get two sets of teeth. We learned a good lesson with the kids’ baby teeth and now we have another chance to do it right with their permanent teeth. The children have learned a very valuable lesson about how to take care of their teeth now. They remember their experience at the hospital and they are now religious about taking excellent care of their teeth. They don’t mind their visits to the dentist now and have managed to make it into the “No Cavities Club” at their recent visits.

Here is our dental care routine now and some other tips that I hope will help you avoid what we went through.

  • FlossFLOSS – The girls use child flossers (every night) before brushing. They start and we finish to make sure they are getting in between every tooth. Floss first so that you brush away the germs removed from the teeth. We have now begun flossing John’s teeth at night as well.
  • BRUSH – Our children brush for two minutes, twice every day. They start so they can practice and then we help them finish and ensure we’ve thoroughly brushed every tooth. The toothbrushes with lights that flash for two minutes help us make sure we don’t give up too soon.
  • BrushFor our third child, we began using a smear of FLOURIDE toothpaste (NOT “training toothpaste”) very early on, even when he was too young to spit. At around age two he was able to spit. We brush with it twice a day. Sometimes, he cooperates and sometimes he doesn’t. Lately he has been standing and letting us brush. But, if we have to, one parent holds his head while the other brushes. I’m not going to lie, sometimes it is a struggle. This might seem a little harsh, but we do not want him to have to go through what the girls did, nor do we want to pay for it. In the past, dentists and the American Dental Association (ADA)Brush recommended using non-flouride toothpaste until the age of two out of fear of children ingesting fluoride and getting flourosis, or white streaks on their permanent teeth. The ADA now suggests that some patients use a smear (the size of a piece of rice) of fluoride toothpaste on children’s teeth as soon as they appear and wiping it off. At the age of 3 (once the child is good at spitting), some move to a pea-sized amount of fluoride paste. Our girls were using training toothpaste FAR TOO LONG. We were actually were being TOLD to use training paste by our former dentist. I think this was the main reason for the problems we experienced. (Do not use fluoridated toothpaste on your child until you have discussed with your child’s dentist when is the right time for your child.)
  • RinseRINSE – Finally, we use mouth rinse EVERY night, after flossing and brushing. No exceptions.
  • EARLY EXAM – Our youngest child had his first dental exam, cleaning, and x-rays at the age of one. Dr. Robbins reminds us that a child can get a cavity as soon as they have teeth. Establish a relationship with a dentist and begin taking care of their teeth as soon as they have them (by the age of ONE!). She has taken children age 15 months to the OR!
  • LESS SUGAR – We eliminated gummy fruit snacks, gummy vitamins and only consume juice, raisins and candy on very special occasion.

Important Information from Dr. Rebecca L. Robbins, DDS:

  • Dr-Robbins-Headshot-New-330x496The Facts:
    * Dental caries are the most common chronic childhood disease as reported by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC)
    * They are five times more common than asthma
    * 51 million school hours are lost each year due to dental caries pain and infection
    * 40% of children have dental caries by the time they reach kindergarten
    * Good news = Dental disease is preventable
  • The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend that every child establishes a dental home by his/her first birthday. Your child’s first tooth is the perfect reminder that it is time to schedule an appointment with a dentist. Early prevention and detection will guarantee a bright and happy oral health future for your child. Your child will then be able to understand that going to the dentist is a fun and enjoyable experience. The first visit will start with a review of your child’s medical and dental history and an initial examination, which includes “counting their teeth”. Digital x-rays are taken if deemed necessary, followed by oral hygiene instructions to emphasize proper oral health care. After a comprehensive examination of your child, any dental findings will be directly discussed with you.
  •  Why a pediatric dentist? – Pediatric dentists complete a residency of two years in a children’s hospital focusing on all aspects of infant and adolescence needs; behavioral management; sedation options; hospital treatment if needed.  Pediatric dentists specialize in anticipatory guidance, oral and diet counseling, trauma plans and behavior modeling for positive visits.


    John and SandyWhen should I start cleaning my baby’s teeth?
    The sooner the better! Starting at birth, clean your child’s gums with a soft infant toothbrush and water. Remember that most small children do not have the dexterity to brush their teeth effectively. Unless it is advised by your child’s pediatric dentist, do not use fluoridated toothpaste until age 2-3.

    How can I prevent tooth decay from a bottle or nursing?

    Encourage your child to drink from a cup as they approach their first birthday. Children should not fall asleep with a bottle. At-will nighttime breast-feeding should be avoided after the first primary (baby) teeth begins to erupt. Drinking juice from a bottle should be avoided. When juice is offered, it should be in a cup.

    When should bottle-feeding be stopped?

    Children should be weaned from the bottle at 12-14 months of age.

    For more information visit Dr. Rebecca L. Robbins, DDS at and the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry at


    Dr. Rebecca Robbins is so generous and so passionate about helping families take proper care of their children’s teeth that she is DONATING two children’s ORAL B ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSHES for me to giveaway to one of you!

    Want to ENTER TO WIN? All you have to do is COMMENT on this post.

    Feel free to share your dental experiences and ask questions. 

    Thanks for reading! Please share this with your friends to help them learn from my mistakes.

12 thoughts on “You Brush Your Teeth, Ch Ch Ch Ch…

  1. Tina

    Thanks for sharing! Great tips for those that may be struggling. As a child, I experienced some of those same terrifying times. Understanding that technology was not nearly advanced as today. Unfortunately, it gave me a fear of the dentist. Up to this day, I take something before any visit, even the cleanings!!! I wanted to make sure our daughter did not have the same fear; we started early with a pediatric dentist. She just turned 10 and hasn’t had any cavities. It took some of those dreadful nights but very thankful for the outcomes.


  2. Jessica Higgins

    Thanks for sharing! My daughter is 21 months old and when I called the pediatric dentist I was told to bring her for her first visit around 2 years…I also struggle with brushing teeth and am lucky to get 30 seconds:( Will have to try harder!!


  3. Shelly Pressell

    Dr. Robbins and staff are wonderful. My oldest was 5 when we found her. She is a child with special needs and they have been very kind , caring, gentle and patient with her. It is worth the drive from Warren Ohio to see her. In fact both my girls will getting check ups in a few weeks.


  4. karrie

    what a wonderful story and a constant reminder to be there and help our children brush and floss 2x a day. We love Dr. Robbins and her amazing staff. So glad we have found her. Thanks again for sharing – I will remember this when sometimes I forget the occasional brushing and flosses with the kids.


  5. Susan K

    My children just love Dr. Robbins and her team. They love going for a check up and love it even more when they get to add their name to the no cavity club board!!! Totally different from when I was a kid and I still dread going to the dentist to this day! Great job to the whole team 🙂


  6. Vicki

    I cried while reading this thinking of the very similar situation we have gone through with my daughter. It is so hard when your think you are doing things the correct way only to find it you could have done more. We also now go to Dr Robbins and are very pleased with the care. Thank you for sharing your story.


  7. Jen

    Great post Ashley! Love Dr. Robbins and her staff. I had heard before that gummy vitamins are a terrible culprit of cavities. I don’t use them, but I hadn’t really thought about the sugar that sits on kids’ teeth after they take them. I think it’s great that you’re getting the word out!


  8. Christy

    Thank you for sharing your story! I am in the same boat with my little man. My next step is setting the appointment for the procedure in the hospital. =( I really thought I had been keeping up with my now 4 year olds teeth care. I feel guilty that I didn’t do better or fight the battles a little harder and now he has to experience this. He loves Dr. Robbins and her entire staff, he was a great patient for his cleaning and x-rays… I do not want to tarnish his great experiences in the office, so I am opting for the anesthesia instead. He loves the dentist. Unlike his older sister did at his age. She had a few difficult experiences at a different practice, and was scared to go. I don’t want him to go through what she did and be scared. Again thank you for sharing and telling us about your experience… I’m going to make that call, make his appointment and get this done so that on his next visit he will make the no cavity wall too. Peace and Love.


  9. Carrie

    I think our family and your family must be the same! I have two girls (ages 6 and 3) and one boy (11 months). Last spring we found out that our oldest (then, age 5) had eight activities. Our daughter was a trooper, she completed all of her dental work in the chair (not the OR) over several dental appointments, resulting in several fillings and two silver crowns. All of her activities were between teeth in her molars. I was in tears over the experience because I (their mom) was in charge of everything they ate and drank. We never had fruit juice in the home. Cookies and candy were a special treat. If anything, I ate more sugary things then my kids did, sneaking sweets after they went to bed, and I never had the cavity problems like my daughter did. I was baffled. On the other hand, we never flossed the kids’ teeth but we did brush twice a day. We had taken our oldest to the dentist since she was two and took her every six months, but she didn’t have her teeth x-rayed until age 5, which revealed all of the cavities. Well, after this experience, we started flossing BOTH of our daughters’ teeth and using a fluoride mouth rinse. I also started brushing their teeth three times a day.

    Well, just this last month, we received more bad news. Our second child has five cavities, and she is just a little over age 3! I was in tears in the dentist office when I found out the news. We are hoping she will be able to have the dental work done in the office but don’t know if will handle it well. We are going to continue the brushing, flossing, and mouth rinsing. We’ve also eliminated almost all sugar from our home, in hopes to try to get the dental issues under control. And we are doing everything you suggest in your blog post for our youngest boy so he will hopefully not have the same experience as our daughters. Anyway, I read your story in the Cleveland Family magazine and in your blog post and just wanted to let you know that my heart connected with yours. Thank you for sharing your story!


  10. Shannon

    Great tips, thank you for sharing. My 5 year old twins aren’t big fans of brushing their teeth. I have been thinking about getting them electric toothbrushes and would love to win them. 🙂


  11. Kimberly

    Thank you so much for writing this!! I’ve been feeling like a parenting failure since learning my son has several cavities. We’ve followed the same path, assuming we were doing the right things, and even after learning about them, adding a rinse and flossers when he was three. He’s 4.5 now and just had his first fillings and a crown. I’m mortified not just because I failed my child, but also because my failure has made for some miserable dentist visits. It’s good to know we’re not alone and that despite our best efforts teeth can be challenging.


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